Help Others, But Start with Yourself

When you lose someone in your family, automatically you try to fill the void. That emptiness feels weird and foreign, it is very uncomfortable. It's hard to pin point this feeling in the middle of grief, but in retrospect you start to understand why you did certain things and said what you did. Although you may be feeling like you are useful and really helping those around you, you also have to be very careful. It's easy to lose yourself and enable others. It is probably the most difficult thing I have ever done was to stop playing mom, wife, sister, and daughter. When I should have concentrated on being the best sister and daughter possible and spent a little more time on me. It sounds selfish, but to help others you need to be able to heel yourself first!

Strength Through Faith

Psalm 30:5
"Weeping may remain for a night, but rejoicing comes in the morning."

Psalm 34:18
"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit."

John 3:16a
"that whoever beliebed in him shall not perish but have eternal life."

I have found that in the darkest times, when I was grieving, that the one thing that always pulled me through was my faith. When my mom died, I felt like I was almost "born again" in faith, as I had set it to the side for my social life. The only thing that comforted me in my mourning was knowing that she was in a much beter place than I was. In fact I was even mad at her for leaving me in this world that can almost be hellish. Knowing that I would see her again comforted my sorrows. My best advice is when in doubt always turn to your faith, the answers to your problems will always be found their!

Six Years Ago Today

Today I am reminded of the thousands of people in this country who lost parents, kids, siblings six years ago. Also, I am thinking of all the men and women currently serving in the armed forces and of those who have made the ultimate sacrifce for all of us. I hope you can take a moment out of your day to do the same.

Always remember and NEVER forget!

Don't be Afraid

Hi! Welcome to my blog. I want you all to feel free to post anything. Whatever you are feeling, how your day has been, your story of loss, whatever you feel like. Remember this is a community of people just like you feeling your frustrations and pains. So don't be afraid. Whatever you have inside let it out. You'd be surprised how it feels!

There is nothing to be scared or nervous about, we don't know who you are, we just know that we share a bond with you. I hope you join in on discussions or thoughts!