Tuesday, November 13, 2007
The Holidays and the other random days of the year!
It is not the first time that I have been hit by that realization, but something about that moment in the film just really hit home. I sat there trying to choke back that emotions that were starting to rise to the surface. I was em,embarrassed and uncomfortable and thought about leaving class, because I was not sure that I could handle it. I hate that vulnerable feeling that comes out of nowhere it is so awkward, you really just do not know what to do with yourself.
After leaving class I was just in this awful trans like mode, where I assume I will be for a good majority of the rest of the day. Yes, it definitely puts a damper on your plans. Wouldn't it be nice if you could map these freak moments out on a calendar so it wouldn't interrupt your plans? It would work so much better for myself!
Of course to it is that ti me of year, the holiday season brings great joy, but often a sentimental remembrance that makes you edgy and upset on occasion. I can now almost pinpoint the day this period begins and ends. It's funny how over the years that you become so in tune with your emotional state that you can predict feelings sometimes and then years later out of no where this god awful break down comes in. I think it is a matter of accepting that you will have your good and bad days and it is just a matter of learning how to live with them. I wish I had a mapped out calendar of days you should be aware of, but unfortunately life is not that easy!
This will be my last post for my class. But I do plan on checking to see if anyone has showed interest in it afterward, so please if you need to voice the frustrations in your life please do so here. As this is always a shoulder to lean on and someone to vent to.
Thank you,
Chelsey
Saturday, November 10, 2007
"How are they?" After they are gone.
Saturday, November 3, 2007
Different forms of Loss
I think one of the hardest losses for me, was when I lost my best friend. She didn't die, but a situation took her from me and we were never able to talk again. The pain of knowing that she was not in my life any longer, but still on this earth made it worse than a loss to death for me. I wanted nothing more than to see her and for everything to be normal again, and knowing that she was going on with her life and I was just stuck grieving from it just killed me.
Loss comes in so many forms that I think you would find it interesting just how many other people are out there grieving over the loss of someone or something and feel just as alone as you do.
Saturday, October 27, 2007
Pushing Rewind
Pushing Rewind
I wish that time could just rewind
Taking us back to the laughter
That use to fill the days of happiness
Sometimes my heart pounds with hurt
In a fatal blink, you were gone
Your wings taking you home where you belong
Trying not to be so selfish missing you
For now you sing in the chorus of angels
Watching from the kingdom up above
You came to serve, so many you did
That day the whole world mourned
When their mother Teresa passed
Ending this scene, but not the movie
I look forward to the grand finale
When we’ll meet once again.
Saturday, October 20, 2007
Having to Remember all the Details
This is a completely normal and all just part of the process. In all actuality you will never be able to forget that person because they are forever imprinted into your memories and life. Sure you may sometimes forget the joke that you two always laughed at, stories that were told, but the person remains a part of you forever.
After my mom died I was afraid too of forgetting every detail about her. Those were the only things I had left and I never wanted to forget a single thing. An obvious piece of advice I received was to start writing all the moments and memories, with painful details in a book. This way you will never forget and can later revisit them when you are not thinking clear or lose track. Looking back I wish I would have stuck with that more. There are things I find hard to remember, but I do not punish myself for forgetting them. It is just a part of life and though the details mean a lot, the person means more.
Saturday, October 6, 2007
Living, One Year After
Living, One Year After is a poem I wrote for my poetry class in high school. I ended up reading this to the class exactly one year after my mom's death. Many in the class new her and were crying, which made me feel awkward as I did not like showing my emotions in public. I was doing OK and when others would fall apart I just didn't know what to do. I thought why did I have to comfort others over my moms death I'm fine why aren't they? But, through my grieving process I found that writing was a huge outlet for my frustrations, anger, sadness, it helped to see everything on paper. Maybe it is physically being able to see what you are feeling that helps, whatever it was it helped pull my thoughts together.
Living, One Year After
Sitting here I flash back exactly one year ago
To the horror and pain that flooded my body
All of us standing around your bed letting you go.
I go back six days before, when you left for surgery
Too consumed in my own life, not even a goodbye
I slept in the warmth of my bed, while you on a cold table
Waiting outside for you to wake up, not knowing the outcome
With an absent minded mistake, your life they took away
Depriving the world of a comedian, hero, nurse, friend, and mom
As sirens approached an odd fear overwhelmed my heart
As I thought of yesterdays shopping trip, coffee, and chats
Not possibly imagining that they would be our very last
The following days were a blur, as people came and went
I sat at your bedside doing your hair, rubbing your hand
Looking at pictures kids had sent, everyone thinking of you
While in my morn my head held high as I cared for everyone too
Running on fumes I just hoped and prayed that I could be like you
Not as strong was I, but I tried to fill your outstanding shoes
Until that day, one week past that we had to call your last
Everyone bedside holding on as the nurse pulled the plug
It took 20 minutes for your heart to let go, ours are still saying no
But strong I hold not letting you down, ever so firm I stand
For me to hold on would be nothing short of selfish
Because today, one year after I know you're smiling down.